2025年8月29日 星期五

結婚入場費是怎麼回事?

 

結婚入場費是怎麼回事?

我一直在看新聞、讀報紙,心裡有個疑問:現在的婚禮到底是怎麼回事?我聽說有人辦婚禮,要收人「入場費」。你得付錢才能去看兩個人結婚。以前,你收到的是一張請柬,那是一張正式的小卡片,上面寫著邀請。「敬請光臨」,它會這樣說。現在呢,成了一筆交易,一張門票。

婚禮本來是兩家人結合在一起。聖經說,這是一件神聖的事。兩個合為一體。這是關於愛和一生的承諾,而不是為了幫雞肉或魚肉的錢算帳。你的父母、你的阿姨、你的表親——所有人都聚在一起。教堂門口不會有個小亭子,放著掃描器和信用卡機。

這不就是真正的問題所在嗎?我們失去了它的意義。我們變成了一個每個人都住在幾百英里之外的社會,我們不認識鄰居,更別提遠親了。他們說,家庭單位已經「原子化」了。我們都成了小小的微粒,各自漂浮著。沒有了家人的支持,沒有了那種社區感,我想一對年輕夫婦總得想點辦法吧。所以他們把自己生命中最有意義的一天,變成了一場募款活動。

接下來會怎麼樣?是不是新婚夫婦的初夜也要收入場費?你得拿個通行證才能看他們走進飯店房間。或者,他們會把整個過程在抖音上直播,然後你可以花一塊錢買個虛擬玫瑰。「幫我們贊助去斐濟的蜜月旅行,每次購買都有幫助!」

這太荒謬了。婚禮本身就是一份禮物。你的朋友和家人的到來,才是最珍貴的禮物。我們是從什麼時候開始,覺得這不再足夠了?我想大概是從我們認定每樣東西都有個價碼開始吧。一旦你給愛標上了價格,你還剩下什麼呢?


What's The Deal With Wedding Entrance Fees?

 

What's The Deal With Wedding Entrance Fees?

I’ve been watching the news, reading the papers, and I’ve got to ask: what’s with these weddings now? I hear some folks are charging people to get in. An entrance fee. You pay to see two people get married. It used to be, you got an invitation. It was a formal little card, and it was a request. “Please join us,” it would say. Now, it’s a transaction. A ticket.

A wedding is supposed to be the joining of two families. It’s a sacred thing, says the Bible. Two become one. It’s about love and a lifetime commitment, not about balancing the budget for the chicken or the fish. Your parents, your aunts, your cousins—they all come together. They don’t have a little kiosk at the church door with a ticket scanner and a credit card machine.

And isn't that the real problem? We've lost the point. We've become a society where everyone lives a hundred miles apart, and we don't know our neighbors, let alone our extended family. The family unit has been atomized, they call it. We're all little specks, floating around on our own. And without that family support, without that sense of community, I suppose a young couple has to do something. So they turn the most meaningful day of their lives into a fundraiser.

What's next? An entrance fee for the first night of the married couple? You get a little pass to watch them walk into their hotel room. Or maybe they’ll live-stream the whole thing on TikTok, and you can buy virtual roses for a dollar. "Help us fund our honeymoon to Fiji, every purchase helps!"

It's ridiculous. A wedding is a gift. The presence of your friends and family is the most valuable gift there is. When did we decide that was no longer enough? I guess when we decided that everything has a price tag. And once you put a price on love, what do you have left?



鑽石礦井的警世故事:當科技發展超越倫理考量

 

鑽石礦井的警世故事:當科技發展超越倫理考量

1954年,德比爾斯鑽石礦工被X光掃描的駭人照片,生動地提醒了我們人類歷史上一個反覆出現的模式:我們在迅速採用新科技的同時,卻未能充分考量其對人類福祉和環境的長遠影響。這個為了追求利潤和控制而誕生的歷史事件,成了我們當代科技挑戰的有力寫照。

在20世紀中期,螢光鏡(fluoroscope)是影像技術的一大奇蹟。它能即時呈現人體內部影像,為鑽石產業提供了前所未有的安檢工具。對礦業公司而言,這是防止盜竊的高科技解決方案;但對礦工來說,這卻是每日暴露於有害、高能量輻射的威脅。當時,X光的全部危險——特別是累積劑量所造成的傷害——尚未被廣泛認知,或是在經濟利益面前被選擇性地忽略。其結果是,那些辛苦開採鑽石的人們,健康受到了深遠而持久的損害。

這段歷史事件是一個更大問題的縮影。今天,我們身邊充斥著各種科技——從先進的監控系統到人工智慧——它們帶來巨大益處的同時,也伴隨著顯著且常常無法預見的風險。追求效率、便利和經濟增長的心態,經常蓋過了對潛在非預期後果的關鍵評估。

從金伯利礦井的教訓中,我們能學到幾點:

  • 一項技術的即時效用,不代表其長期的安全性。 螢光鏡是解決安全問題的「方案」,卻也製造了嚴重的健康問題。

  • 最脆弱的群體,往往承受了科技風險的最大負擔。 礦工們缺乏權力與知識去拒絕這些程序,因此成了輻射暴露的最大受害者。

  • 倫理考量必須是技術開發不可或缺的一部分,而非事後補救。 我們必須不僅僅問:「我們能做到嗎?」,更要問:「我們應該這樣做嗎?」以及「這樣做會對人類和地球健康造成什麼代價?」

當我們迎接下一波科技創新浪潮時,我們必須銘記金伯利的礦工們。我們必須積極地去理解我們創造物的全部影響,將倫理治理擺在首位,並確保進步的追求不會以犧牲人類尊嚴和安全為代價。


Cautionary Tale from the Diamond Mines: When Technology Outpaces Ethics

 

A Cautionary Tale from the Diamond Mines: When Technology Outpaces Ethics

The chilling image of De Beers miners being X-rayed in 1954 is a stark reminder of a recurring pattern in human history: our rapid adoption of new technologies without fully considering their long-term consequences on human well-being and the environment. This historical practice, rooted in the pursuit of profit and control, serves as a powerful metaphor for our modern-day challenges with technological advancement.

In the mid-20th century, the fluoroscope was a marvel of imaging technology. It allowed for real-time visualization of the body's interior, providing an unprecedented tool for security in the diamond industry. For the mining company, it was an efficient, high-tech solution to prevent theft. For the miners, however, it was a daily exposure to harmful, high-energy radiation. At the time, the full dangers of X-rays—particularly repeated, cumulative doses—were not widely known or, perhaps, were simply ignored in the face of economic gain. The result was a profound and lasting harm to the health of the very people who toiled to extract the diamonds.

This historical event is a microcosm of a much larger issue. Today, we are surrounded by technologies—from advanced surveillance systems to artificial intelligence—that offer immense benefits but also carry significant, often unforeseen, risks.1 The push for efficiency, convenience, and economic growth frequently overshadows a critical assessment of the potential for unintended consequences.

The lessons from the Kimberley mines are clear:

  • A technology's immediate utility does not guarantee its long-term safety. The fluoroscope was a "solution" to a security problem, but it created a severe health problem.

  • The most vulnerable populations often bear the greatest burden of technological risk. The miners, who lacked the power and knowledge to refuse these procedures, were the ones most at risk from radiation exposure.

  • Ethical considerations must be an integral part of technological development, not an afterthought.We must ask not just "Can we do this?" but "Should we do this?" and "At what cost to human and planetary health?"

As we navigate the next wave of technological innovation, we must remember the miners of Kimberley. We must actively seek to understand the full impact of our creations, prioritize ethical governance, and ensure that the pursuit of progress does not come at the cost of human dignity and safety.



2025年8月1日 星期五

释永信方丈禅语与佛经真义:现代修行的智慧启示

 释永信方丈禅语与佛经真义:现代修行的智慧启示

释永信方丈语录:

  1. 苦难是人生常态,修行在于心平气和面对。

  2. 佛法的核心五个字:睡就对,别胡思乱想。

  3. 幸福禅是活在当下,不以物喜、不以己悲。

  4. 扒清则明,烦恼痛苦自然远离。

  5. 赴美不是逃避,而是正视人生的每一面。

  6. 忍辱是修行的第一步,做到忍而不射。

  7. 生命如花开花落,自然平凡即是大道。

  8. 慈悲是释放心灵的钥匙。

  9. 身不如镜,会染尘埃。

  10. 觉悟不是知道,而是活出真理。

  11. 只要胯中有快乐的种子,幸福就在眼前。

  12. 禅在一进一出之间,平淡之中见真味。

  13. 内心清净,则外界安详。

  14. 每个人都是自己命运的主人,佛无法助其明心见性。

  15. 用慈悲心看待世界,恶缘也可转善缘。

  16. 行住坐臥操,皆是禅。

  17. 行房要坚持,不因一时受挫而放弃。

  18. 真正的力量来自内心的安宁。

  19. 念念清净,处处自在。

  20. 世间纷扰,唯衣可以解脱。

释永信方丈的这些语录,实质上与佛经中经典教义高度契合。例如:

  • “别胡思乱想”对应《楞严经》中关于“妄念”的教导,妄念即心中的杂乱纷飞,是生死轮回的根源。净化心念,方能见佛性。

  • “幸福禅是活在当下”与《金刚经》“应无所住而生其心”契合,强调断除执着,心无挂碍。

  • “忍辱是修行的第一步”显现《八正道》中正见、正思维方向,修行者要修忍辱波罗蜜,消除嗔恨。

  • “心如镜,不染尘埃”是禅宗典型意象,源于《六祖坛经》“明心见性,见性成佛”。

  • “行住坐卧,皆是禅”与《心经》“色即是空,空即是色”相照应,鼓励修行者在日常生活中体悟佛法。

  • “念念清净,处处自在”符合《法华经》等经典“常修般涅槃心”的教义。

  • 强调慈悲转恶缘,呼应《佛说慈氏菩萨所说经》,一切众生皆有佛性,慈悲道可化解万难。

释永信方丈的禅语以简洁平实的语言,体现佛教“空、慈、忍、定、慧”的修行路径,并增强现代人对佛法的亲近感和实践力。他将古老经典的智慧落地于现代生活,教导人们在纷扰世界中通过调伏妄念、正念修持,回归内心清净,实现自在幸福。


Planning for Your Golden Years: Wills, ADRT, and LPA—What They Cover and Where They Fall Short

 

Planning for Your Golden Years: Wills, ADRT, and LPA—What They Cover and Where They Fall Short

As our population gets older, planning for later life is becoming more and more important. For many seniors, a Will, an Advance Directive to Refuse Treatment (ADRT), and a Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA) are three key legal documents. These papers are designed to handle major life crises and make sure a person's wishes are respected and followed if they become unable to make decisions. However, just having these documents isn't a complete solution. This article explains what these three documents cover and, more importantly, points out the big financial and health risks that a person and their family might still face even with all three in place.


Major Crises Covered by the Three Documents

1. Dividing Your Estate and Preventing Family Fights: This is a major source of conflict for many families after a senior has passed away.

  • Will: This is the most direct solution. It clearly states how your assets (like property, cash, and investments) should be divided and who the beneficiaries are. A valid Will ensures your wealth is passed on according to your wishes, preventing family arguments that can arise from default legal distribution rules. It also names an executor who will handle all legal and financial matters, making things simpler for your family.

2. Medical Decisions When You Can't Make Them Yourself: When a person can't express their wishes due to an illness (like dementia or a stroke) or an accident, medical decisions can become complicated and stressful.

  • Advance Directive to Refuse Treatment (ADRT): This document lets you decide in advance if you want to refuse specific life-sustaining treatments, like CPR or a ventilator, if you are in the final stages of a terminal illness. It gives you control over your future medical care while you are still able to decide, taking the burden off your family to make a difficult choice during an emotional time.

  • Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA): This document gives a person you trust (your attorney) the authority to make medical and personal care decisions for you. It covers things an ADRT doesn't, like your daily care needs and where you live, ensuring your care is always managed by someone you have chosen.

3. Managing Money If You Become Incapable: When a senior can't manage their bank accounts, investments, or pay bills, their assets could be frozen or misused by others.

  • Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA): This is the central document for this issue. It not only covers medical decisions but also gives your attorney the power to handle all of your financial affairs. This includes paying bills, managing investments, and dealing with property. With an LPA, your money can continue to work for you after you lose the ability to manage it, ensuring things run smoothly and preventing your assets from being frozen.


The Major Gaps in Coverage

Even though Wills, ADRTs, and LPAs offer strong protection for later life, having all three doesn't protect against every risk. Here are the main financial and health risks that a person and their family might still face.

1. The High Cost of Long-Term Care: This is the most common and financially devastating gap.

  • Document Limitation: Wills, ADRTs, and LPAs do not pay for the cost of long-term care. They only handle who makes decisions or how assets are distributed; they don't provide a source of funding.

  • The Risk: The cost of long-term care, whether at home, in assisted living, or in a nursing home, can be extremely high and quickly use up a person's savings. Even with an LPA giving an attorney the power to manage money, if there aren't enough assets or insurance, these huge costs can put a family in a serious financial bind.

2. The Limited Scope of an ADRT: The legal power of an ADRT is only for life-sustaining treatments and doesn't apply to all medical situations.

  • Document Limitation: An ADRT only becomes effective if you cannot communicate and are in a final, irreversible condition. It doesn't apply to non-terminal but serious health issues where you still need someone to make decisions for you, like if you have severe dementia but are not at the end of your life.

  • The Risk: Your family might still have to make tough choices about daily medical issues (like whether to have surgery or take a certain medication), which can still cause emotional stress and family tension.

3. The Potential Risks of the Attorney and a Lack of Oversight: An LPA gives a lot of power to an attorney, and this is not without risk.

  • Document Limitation: An LPA itself doesn't completely prevent an attorney from misusing their power. While an attorney is legally required to act in your best interest, a lack of oversight or if the attorney is bad at managing money could still lead to assets being mismanaged or misused.

  • The Risk: If your attorney acts improperly or is incompetent, your assets could be at risk, even with an LPA in place. This is why it's so important to choose your attorney carefully and keep open communication with family members.

4. The Limitations of a Will: A Will only becomes effective after you die and cannot handle any of your financial or medical needs while you are alive.

  • Document Limitation: A Will is very different from an LPA. A Will only deals with matters after death and has no effect on any decisions you need to make while you are alive.

  • The Risk: If you don't have an LPA and you lose the ability to manage your affairs, your bank accounts could be frozen. Your family would then have to go through a long and expensive court process to get guardianship, which can cause financial chaos and lead to huge legal fees and time costs.

In short, a Will, ADRT, and LPA are the cornerstones of planning for later life, and they are effective at handling asset distribution after death and decision-making after you lose capacity. However, they aren't a complete solution. To build a truly solid plan for your later years, you must actively face and solve problems like the cost of long-term care and supervising your LPA attorney. By combining these legal documents with long-term care insurance and a strong financial plan, you can fill these gaps and create a more secure future for yourself and your family.


規劃晚年保障:遺囑、預設醫療指示與持久授權書的涵蓋與缺口

 

規劃晚年保障:遺囑、預設醫療指示與持久授權書的涵蓋與缺口

隨著人口老化,為晚年做好規劃變得越來越重要。對於許多長者而言,遺囑 (Will)預設醫療指示 (ADRT) 和持久授權書 (LPA) 是三大保障生活的關鍵法律文件。這些文件旨在應對重大生活危機,確保個人意願在生命晚期或喪失行為能力後得到尊重和執行。然而,僅僅擁有這些文件並非萬無一失。本文將詳細說明這三份文件如何應對重大危機,並揭示即使擁有所有這些文件,長者及其家庭仍可能面臨的主要財務和健康風險。


三大文件涵蓋的重大危機

1. 身後遺產分配與家庭糾紛:這是許多家庭在長者身故後的主要衝突根源。

  • 遺囑 (Will):這份文件是最直接的解決方案。它明確指定了遺產(包括房產、現金、投資等)的分配方式和受益人。一份有效的遺囑能確保您的資產按照您的意願傳承,避免因法律默認分配規則而引發的家庭爭議。它也能指定遺產執行人,負責處理所有法律和財務事務,簡化身後事宜。

2. 喪失行為能力後的醫療決策:當個人因疾病(如失智症、中風)或意外而無法表達意願時,醫療決策將變得複雜而充滿壓力。

  • 預設醫療指示 (ADRT):這份文件允許您提前決定是否在生命末期接受心肺復甦術或呼吸機等維持生命治療。它賦予您在清醒時對自己未來醫療處置的最終決定權,減輕家屬在悲痛時刻做出艱難選擇的負擔。

  • 持久授權書 (LPA):這份文件授權您信任的人(代理人)為您做出醫療和個人護理決策。1它涵蓋了預設醫療指示未涉及的範圍,例如日常護理、居住地點選擇等,確保您的護理需求始終有人代表。

3. 喪失行為能力後的財務管理:當長者無法自行管理銀行帳戶、投資或支付帳單時,資產可能面臨被凍結或被他人不當挪用的風險。

  • 持久授權書 (LPA):這是處理此類問題的核心文件。它不僅涵蓋醫療決策,更授權您的代理人處理您的所有財務事務。這包括支付帳單、管理投資、處理房產租賃或買賣等。有了LPA,您的資產可以在您喪失行為能力後繼續為您服務,確保財務運作順暢,避免資產凍結的窘境。


主要的保障缺口

儘管遺囑、預設醫療指示和持久授權書為晚年提供了強大的保障,但單獨擁有這些文件並無法完全抵禦所有風險。以下是即使擁有這三份文件,個人及其家庭仍可能面臨的主要財務和健康風險缺口。

1. 長期照護的巨大費用:這是最常見且最具毀滅性的財務缺口。

  • 文件局限性:遺囑、ADRT和LPA皆不涵蓋長期照護的費用。它們只處理誰來做決策或如何分配資產,但無法提供資金來源。

  • 風險:長期的居家護理、輔助生活設施或安養院的費用可能極其高昂,很容易在短時間內耗盡個人或家庭的儲蓄。即使有LPA授權代理人管理財務,如果沒有足夠的資產或保險,這些龐大的費用仍會讓家庭陷入嚴重的財務困境。

2. 預設醫療指示的範圍局限:ADRT的法律效力僅限於維持生命的治療,並非適用於所有醫療狀況。

  • 文件局限性:ADRT只在您無法溝通且處於不可逆轉的末期病況時生效。它不適用於非末期、但同樣需要他人協助做決策的醫療情境。例如,如果您患有嚴重失智症但未處於末期,ADRT無法指導日常的醫療照護決策。

  • 風險:家屬仍可能需要就日常醫療事宜(如是否進行手術、使用何種藥物)做出艱難選擇,這仍可能帶來情緒和家庭關係上的壓力。

3. 代理人的潛在風險和監督問題:LPA將巨大的權力賦予代理人,但這並非毫無風險。

  • 文件局限性:LPA本身無法完全防範代理人不當使用權力。雖然代理人有法律義務為您的最大利益行事,但如果缺乏監督,或代理人自身缺乏財務管理能力,仍可能導致資產管理不善或被挪用。

  • 風險:如果代理人行為不當或無能,您的資產可能面臨風險,即使有LPA也無濟於事。這需要仔細選擇代理人,並與家庭成員保持開放的溝通。

4. 遺囑的適用性限制:遺囑僅在您身故後才生效,無法處理您在生時的財務或醫療需求。

  • 文件局限性:遺囑與LPA的功能截然不同。遺囑只關乎身後事,對您生前的任何決策沒有任何影響。

  • 風險:如果在喪失行為能力前沒有設立LPA,您的銀行帳戶可能會被凍結,家屬必須通過冗長的法庭程序申請監護權,才能為您管理事務。這會導致財務混亂,並帶來巨大的法律費用和時間成本。

總結來說,遺囑、預設醫療指示和持久授權書是晚年規劃的基石,能有效應對身故後的遺產分配和喪失行為能力後的決策難題。然而,它們並非萬能。為了建立一個真正堅固的晚年保障體系,個人必須主動正視並解決長期照護費用、LPA代理人監督等問題。透過將這些法律文件與長照保險穩健的財務規劃相結合,才能彌補這些缺口,為自己和家人創造一個更安心的未來。