康禮《情愫算術》Chip Conley，Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success

 

甲乙對話：論康禮《情愫算術》

甲： 聞君近日讀康禮新著《情愫算術》Chip Conley，Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success，頗有心得，可否與我詳述一二？

乙： 然也。康禮此書，以算術之法，解構人生情愫，甚為精妙。其中有三式，尤令我深思。

甲： 願聞其詳。

乙： 其一，絕望等於苦痛減去意義（絕望 = 苦痛 - 意義）。康禮引維克多·弗蘭克爾之言，謂苦痛乃人生之常數，而意義則為變數。若能於苦痛之中尋得意義，則絕望自可消減。

甲： 此言甚是。人生在世，難免遭遇苦難，若能從中汲取教訓，則苦痛亦可轉化為成長之養分。

乙： 其二，焦慮等於不確定性乘以無力感（焦慮 = 不確定性 × 無力感）。康禮教人製作焦慮平衡表，將已知、未知、可控、不可控之事一一列舉，以釐清思緒。若能增加已知與可控之部分，則焦慮自可減輕。

甲： 此法甚妙。焦慮往往源於對未知之恐懼，若能將其具體化，則可減輕其影響。

乙： 其三，幸福等於想要汝所擁有者除以擁有汝所想要者（幸福 = 想要汝所擁有者 / 擁有汝所想要者）。康禮以不丹之國民幸福指數為例，謂幸福並非一味追求更多，而是珍惜當下所擁有。若能常懷感恩之心，則幸福自可常伴左右。

甲： 此言發人深省。世人多汲汲營營於追求外物，卻忽略了身邊之美好。殊不知，幸福往往就在於珍惜當下。

乙： 誠如君言。康禮此書，以簡約之算式，揭示人生之真諦，實為值得一讀之佳作。

甲： 吾亦欲拜讀此書，以期能從中獲益。

Chip Conley's book "Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success":

Regret = Disappointment + Responsibility

Jealousy = Mistrust / Self-Esteem

Envy = (Pride + Vanity) / Kindness

Anxiety = Uncertainty x Powerlessness

Despair = Suffering - Meaning

Disappointment = Expectations - Reality

Calling = Pleasure / Pain

Workaholism = What Are You Running From? / What Are You Living For?

Flow = Skill / Challenge

Curiosity = Wonder + Awe

Authenticity = Self-Awareness x Courage

Narcissism = (Self-Esteem)^2 x Entitlement

Integrity = Authenticity x Invisibility x Reliability

Happiness = Wanting What You Have / Having What You Want

Joy = Love - Fear

Thriving = Frequency of Positive / Frequency of Negative

Faith = Belief / Intellect

Wisdom = Square Root of Experience

Innovation = Creativity - Cynicism

Event + Reaction = Outcome

Suffering = Pain x Resistance

Emotion = Energy + Motion

Emotions = Life

Gravity (Emotional Baggage): Conceptualized as a force that affects emotional selves, similar to physical gravity